TRAINING CHILDREN IS PARENT’S RESPONSIBILITY
It’s one common visual noticed at any school or a household. It’s the parents assisting their children with trivial tasks. Much like helping them to dress, how to tie the shoe’s laces, arranging the school bag, holding hands to cross the street, pestering to be on time, pushing them how to eat.
Most parents spend years and years literally painstakingly teaching and later correcting their children repeatedly to teach them many things that would help them in the school, at home and later in life. The training never ends; it only changes from an event to an event, year after year.
When it’s about training children, the parents’ focus should always be on different tasks and expectations. The training needs to change according to age and need. And we should take nothing for granted that as the child grows factors like obedience, working hard, and discipline, would automatically fall in place for him.
The secret of raising good, adorable children lies in the training a parent puts in place right from day one.
1. Children need good care and also the definite training in many aspects while they are growing up.
2. Training the children must be a part of our daily routine. We have to look for an ideal time to teach those everyday rules and values that make their life interesting and ours less tedious and less annoying. Incidental remarks, satires, harsh words, are never good training tools. Patience and planning and timing are the buzz words here.
3. If we do not take time off for training and it may lead, maybe, at a later time, we might find our child ill-equipped to deal on his own, in his struggles. It would become a difficult effort for the parents constantly to correct an untrained child. For a child treated with regular doses of corrections often creates a discouraged child. A discouraged child is a weak child psychologically, and chances are he is likely to depend more on their parents at the slightest difficulty.
4. To teach a particular skill repetition and routine is the key. To master a particular skill, say for example table manners, first to explain the need and method of table manners and next to see that the child follows the custom every day until it becomes a seamless habit to him. Patience, confidence, an encouragement that the child can learn in his terms, space, and pace is one point must be observed by the parents. Encouragement and support are vital.
5. Children are a natural store of inbuilt courage and wired to take risks and imitate things that others are doing. Parents should have enough trust to step back and let the children work and practice by themselves. Allow the tough situations stimulate to instill a few good coping skills in them.
6. When children realize that the parents are behind them, and supportively watching and understanding them enough. If children believe parents are there ready to pick them, dust them off and put them back on the track, then they will run an extra mile on their own and be strong enough to buffet any punch coming their way. If parents wish the children success give them as many training chances to try, try and try again.
7. Children are good self-starters. They have a natural mechanism to devise and explore on their own. The parents’ responsibility is to wind them up and sit back and watch them testing their might but never lose sight of them. Parents should never carry all the children’s fears on their backs; allow them to float up and fly high in the sky like a kite, and string firmly and securely in our hand. This how to encourage them to realize their self-esteem, confidence, and self-worth. We have to help them choose their actions to realize their dreams.