TEACHING YOUR CHILD COPING SKILLS
What is coping?
Coping refers to what a person does to avoid, remove, lessen or ‘get through’ a stressful or anxiety situation. It’s a set of thoughts, ideas, and behavior that we use to manage difficult circumstances in life. We have good coping skills means we have an in-built mechanism to adjust and manage tough situations and help ourselves maintain personal balance and a feeling of well-being.
Many children have hard times handling their strong emotions like anger, disappointment, loss, rejection. Teaching children coping skills can help them with these struggles.
Children are not born knowing how to handle these strong feelings. It’s the parents’ job to teach them.
Teach your child coping skills:
Teaching your child with the stress and strains of everyday life will not only make him happy and successful; it will also keep him healthier. It’s necessary that your child cultivates good coping skills, a positive attitude, and an adaptable behavior that would surely become a good guide for physical and mental health.
Teach your child problem-solving skills:
Parents can do this by helping the child to understand that there might be more than one solution to a problem and helping him to make good choices.
Teach him to practice deep breathing.
Deep breathing is important because it helps to relax our body. It promotes calmness and renders the correct rhythm and balance to the body. It communicates to us we are OK and safe.
Teach them the advantages of positive self-talk.
How we talk to ourselves affects everything: It sends the required positive vibes through our body. It has an assuring effect on our thinking mechanism.
Let children know if we engage in negative self-talk; we are likely to invite negativity in all our actions and activities.
Help them understand that negative thoughts aren’t the truth, and there is every possibility to change them, and they have the power to change to something supportive.
Teach your child; he is competent and capable.
You can teach your child to develop confidence and coping skills by:
Set reasonable expectations so that your child feels successful.
Praise for his results and his attempts.
Avoid negative remarks for any of his setbacks.
Make him understand that failure can be an important learning experience.
When we teach the children different strategies and skills to cope, we equip them with valuable tools to navigate real challenges – tools they’ll carry along into young adult life. We teach them to accept themselves as they are, respect their emotions. And these could become priceless lessons when they enter adulthood.