SEVEN PARENTING RULES – 6
TRAINING CHILDREN IS PARENTS RESPONSIBILITY.
One common image is noticed at any school or at households; the parents helping and assisting their children with trivial tasks. Like how to dress, how to tie the shoes, arranging his school bag, how to cross the street, how to be on time, how to eat. Raising children not able to work on their own, and when faced a stiff situation children not able to hold on their own, in such a situation parents have to blame themselves trying to project the children in such a mild format. It is the quite discouraging situation for any child to fend for himself taking on such tough instances.
These perils surface often for parents when not taking time off to train the children to act on their own the many of his duties in and around home and school.
- Children need besides good care definite training in many aspects while he is growing up.
- Training our children have to be a part of our daily routine looking for ideal time to teach them familiar tasks that makes his life interesting, and ours less tedious and less conflicting. Incidental remarks, satires, harsh words, are never good training tools. Patience and planning and timing are the buzz words here.
- Failing to take time off for training and later finding the children ill-equipped to deal on his own in any of his efforts effort, surely, would, later on, lead to, parents constantly correcting an unguided child. Constant corrections fail to train a child and later may create a possibility that he is left discouraged or predisposes to depend more on their parents at the slightest urge.
- To teach a particular skill repetition and regular routine is the key. To master a particular skill, say for example table manner, a child has to be first explained the need and method of table manners and see that the child follows the custom every day until it becomes a seamless habit to him. Patience, confidence, encouragement that the child can learn in his terms, space, and pace is one point to be observed by the parents. Encouragement and support are vital.
- Children are a natural store of inbuilt courage and are wired to take risks and imitate things that others are doing. Parents should have enough trust to step back and let the children work and practice by themselves. Allow the tough situations trigger to instill few good coping skills in them.
- When children realize that the parents are behind them supportively watching and understand enough to pick them, dust them off and put them back on the track then they are willing to run an extra mile on their own and be strong enough to buffet any punch coming their way. If parents wish the children to succeed give them as many training chances to try, try and try again.
- Children are good self-starters. They have a natural mechanism to devise and explore on their own. The parents’ responsibility is to wind them up and sit back and watch them testing their might but never lose sight of them. Parents should never carry all the children’s fears on their backs; allow them to float up and fly high in the sky like a kite, and string firmly and securely in our hand. This is how to encourage them to realize their self-esteem, confidence, and self-worth. Choosing their own actions to recognize their dreams.