PARENTING RULES – 36
Parenting is always a challenging responsibility. Since the last two decades, there has been a major change in how we are raising our children. The tensions, frustrations have increased, and the modern-day parents never seemed happy with not so favorable results from their parenting styles.
Our parenting styles can mean a million intentions we represent to our children. If he’s healthy, emotionally strong, do-gooder, hardworking, honest, self-confident everything we see in our children as they grow up is directly linked to our parenting style.
Check in what parenting style you fit in:
1. HELICOPTER PARENTING:
In this approach, the parents constantly hover over their children and are ready to do anything if they notice what the child needs. They finish their home works, science projects. They make sure once the child demands it, it’s ready before them.
Like an eagle, the parents swoop at any moment to rescue their child and solving every problem for them.
The disadvantage of this style is the child always is in a dependency mode. Once they reached adulthood, they work with a disadvantage as they are unprepared to handle the many struggles of life.
If parents always go to their rescue the children get little practice to cultivate important skills of life like self-reliance, problem-solving, social skills, decision making.
2. AUTHORITARIAN PARENTING:
Authoritarian parents never consider the child’s feelings. Moreover, the parents demand absolute obedience. There don’t give any freedom for the children to follow their mind. They insist they aren’t any room for discussion and follow the rule, “what I told is correct.”
For authoritarian parents, punishment is the only alternative to discipline. The essence of this parenting style is to push, push, push the child until they achieve, achieve, achieve.
Children of authoritarian parents have problems with self-esteem and are constantly under threat of punishment, and they grow mentally mild and as weak personalities.
Children may also become hostile and aggressive. They may never set eyes on future or success ideas as most of the time they focus on the anger they feel about their parents. To avoid punishments, they may cultivate a tendency to lie.
3. PERMISSIVE PARENTING:
Many parents would want to be their child’s ‘best friend.’ In friendships, it involves most of the times saying ‘yes’ to everything asked. Same lenient tendency prevails in parents who are generously permissive with their children.
The parents set rules but never supervise to enforce them; they have the opinion that a child will be at their best with little interference. They and lenient and behave in a manner ‘I want my child to like me.’
There are quite forgiving, and they adopt an attitude of ‘kids will be kids.’ They often encourage their children to talk with them about their problems but allow a free will to choose their inferences either good or bad.
Most of the children with permissive parents enjoy a lot of freedom and are aware of the parent’s leniency. There is a chance; when children grow up, they may not accept authority or rules. It might lead to behavior problems and may suffer from low self-esteem.
4. AUTHORITATIVE PARENTING:
This parenting style is the backbone of parenting. It is a parenting style where parents care about the child behavior. They are responsive to every day emotional needs. They are always watching from a distance how their children are functioning.
Parents have the patience and are non-judgmental about the acts of the children. They understand the child’s feelings and stand by them when it is required.
The parents encourage independence use positive discipline instead of harsh punishments.
Children under the guidance of authoritative parents are happy, healthy and successful.
They become good at making decisions and good at social skills.
They enjoy good self-esteem, and they are more likely to become responsible parents who are competent and assertive.