PARENTING RULES – 29
OTHER THAN EXAMS WATCH FOR INTELLECTUAL BEHAVIOURS
Sunny a ten-year-old is a dainty little one who has all good intentions to work hard and watch for good grades on his progress report. The moment he sets eye on the question paper on the exam day he finds himself simply disturbed. He could see no questions he had worked very hard to remember and write. To his annoyance, he finds the paper filled with the questions that he has assumed ‘not so important.’
The wariness of his previous day’s sincere hard work is now staring back at him as the questions he learned by rote have simply not appeared on the test paper.
He is a sad boy now. He started to think about what might appear as low grades in his forthcoming progress report.
As a parent do we appreciate all his hard work and sincerity to do well in his exams? But the progress card doesn’t reflect the effort.
It’s an age-old academic custom for the parents to correlate grades and test scores to their child’s learning. The primary focus of any parent – well educated or otherwise, the number of A’s and B+’s that fill in the progress report of their kid. That is the bottom line of a child’s intellectual measurement. They worry consistently about how their child compares with the neighbor’s child.
Parents or teachers never think of any alternative behavior as criteria to assess the kid’s creative and intellectual development.
When we see the children become young adults and when they face the complex challenges of the world. The process demands all capabilities like intelligence, reasoning, creativity, intellectual perseverance and craftsmanship.
Parents’ can assess their kid’s growth in the following aspects:
2. LISTENING TO OTHERS
3. AWARENESS OF OWN THINKING
Whenever a school going child given a problem, in the first instance, he doesn’t see a solution. He immediately gives up saying, ‘I can’t handle, and it is very difficult.’ If they don’t find an immediate solution, they are not taught to look for an alternative strategy.
What we find lacking in the children is the ability to handle a problem taking it head on until they come up with an acceptable solution. They lack persistence.
Persistence helps any child to search for alternative planning for problem-solving. It is the characteristic that has to be encouraged and practiced both by parents and teachers. This approach has to start from their early age.
A child who is persistent will enjoy the following advantages.
- He develops a sense of confidence to solve a problem systematically
- They try to understand how to begin and what orderly steps to follow
- How information has to be collected and analyzed
- How to keep progressing even though if they face any hardships until the problem is solved.
2. LISTENING TO OTHERS
Listening is one of the key social skills. It is the ability to listen to another person. Understanding others point of view and empathize with their feelings is one of the highest forms of human relationships.
Children with good listening abilities benefit in their social skills. It will also help them to give importance to others ideas. And it gives them an impression that not to take others point of view poorly.
It also helps the children to connect with their friends in the school and team activities.
3.AWARENESS OF OUR THINKING
This is being aware of our thinking process. If children are aware of their thinking process, they carry a special advantage. It enhances their learning process. The child with this realization will be able to put in definitive steps how he can solve many of school-related problems.
It is the knowledge about how we think, how we make decisions, how logical we are. The advantage of this skill enables us fairly aware of the direction of our thoughts and how strong and weak they are at the moment. It’s almost a self-directed learning.