SEVEN PARENTING RULES – 23
TEACHING YOUR CHILD THINKING SKILLS
Teach your children to develop good thinking skills. And this quick thinking habit can help your child to make fair decisions. This alertness of mindset would help them not to get into any problems: both at school and at home.
To explain this concept more clearly: A school going child must have an ‘awareness skill’ to understand between an action and its consequence. For example, he should be able to deduce for himself “If I don’t get to do my homework, I have to accept punishment for it.” Parents have to teach this logic in a very simple and clear manner to your children as they enter the school.
For every parent, it is a tough responsibility when they find their children, in many instances, when they don’t think before they act.
Encouraging thinking skills among the children from the early age helps you to guide an immature, childish behavior; to see that they become a matured and reasonable individual.
Because of your assistance and guidance, your child must able to learn the process. That involves thinking about the consequences first. He should able to understand when you say, “For every action of yours, it’s you who have to taste the reaction of that action.”
He should cultivate on his own, a method, something like a ‘self-talk,’ “I know I experience the consequences of my behavior. If I don’t control the urge on my own to do certain actions, I might be me in trouble”. Every action of his has to precede by this ‘self-talk,’ if he wants to succeed eventually.
Parents, you have to understand like this. It has to be for children, ‘learning from his experience”. A parent needs to reinforce this concept in their children persistently.
Parents should realize the behavior traits of the kids. It usually takes more repetition to get them to understand. The connection between what they want to do versus what they should do.
Children generally tend to go about doing what gets into their head first. They do with confidence that parents would come to their rescue when something untoward happens. Poor judgment by children might lead to many embarrassing situations to parents. It can happen not only in schools but also in public places and society.
Teaching children thinking before they act is a complicated psychological and imaginative exercise. It involves a three-step process:
- Have a self- talk about the urge to act or an inclination to do something in haste.
- Let him talk about his action plan with parents or close associates/friends
- Again think and self-talk about its possible consequences
Focus on the necessity of guidance and importance of‘self-talk’ with your children. It should act for them like a ‘traffic signal’ on a busy crossroad. Look, stop, pause and go. The action sequence is what any child should practice as frequently as he could. This thinking pattern should form a basis for all plans and strategies. It could apply to any individual.
Parents’ role here is being supportive and forgiving your child whenever he commits a mistake. Your role is to give him enough encouragement to learn from his mistakes. It’s up to the parents to help them to be cautious to learn from his mistakes on his own.