PARENTING RULES – 42
PEOPLE WHO INFLUENCE A CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM
SELF- ESTEEM – A CONTINUOUS PROCESS:
Self-esteem is, basically a mental yardstick everyone has and how they measure the merits of their personality. The concept of having an estimate about ourselves, like self-confidence, or self- awareness is naturally ‘a social factor.’ It means feeling good about ourselves, our abilities and our thoughts, in a social and working environment.
Building self-esteem in children is a continuous process. The positive growth of its essence among children or young people depends upon the experiences and relationships. That they cultivate especially with their parents, teachers, grandparents, important adults who would be around them and finally the friends they bond with.
There are three categories of people who influence a child’s self-esteem.
- PARENTS 2. TEACHERS AND OTHER IMPORTANT ADULTS: 3. FRIENDS.
Right from childhood parents’ affectionate responsiveness has a strong bearing on how a child builds in him the self-confidence and self-esteem.
The level of self-esteem a child develops is directly proportional to the positive environment nurtured by the parents.
The parents’ acceptance through early childhood, adolescence, and young adults allow them to look at themselves and conclude, “My behavior, actions, thoughts, are accepted, admired and recognized.” This unconditional parental acceptance is the root of building good self-esteem in children.
One significant fact every parent has to accept; that they control the deepest impact on how a child feels about themselves. Children are the mirror images of the parents. They reflect your behavior, words, and attitude. Children closely watch how the parents are handling themselves every day.
It is decisive that the parents need to be aware and should avoid certain behaviors that would transmit negative influence the child in a bad way.
- RELATIVES AND OLDER SIBLINGS
Relatives and other important adults also have a chance to influence a child’s self-esteem. Siblings’ especially older siblings could have a powerful impact on a child’s self-esteem negatively or positively.
Parents need to be careful to see that the relatives, or other adults or older siblings should never subject a young child to constant teasing, or calling names, threatening even in a good-natured way. These acts unknowingly may turn out to be very damaging to the confidence and self-esteem of the children.
Teachers too also form another important adult group that could go a long way to build healthy self-esteem in children. Teachers have an advantage; they spend as much time with children as their parents do. And children are willing to listen to their teacher’s words. Surely, the classroom is one good source to nourish a child’s self-esteem positively.
Friends have a tremendous advantage to make or break the self-confidence and self-esteem of their peers. We see most of the adolescents and young adults move in a network made up of friends.
Good friendships certainly keep the children in good moods and help to enhance mental health and thus elevate self-esteem.
Right kind of friends in schools or colleges can help in providing in time of need the emotional support or face any tough situations.
Friends are very good listeners. A deep yearning every adolescent or younger one looks for. The support they would often never seek out from the parents for different reasons. That is the main reason why children value friendships and go about hanging out with them.