SEVEN PARENTING RULES – 22
FIVE IMPORTANT SCHOOL SKILLS YOUR CHILD MUST HAVE.
MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND THAT READING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN TV.
Everyone accepts the fact that at home TV monopolizes a child’s free time. Here is one important note to parents. “Check the whole family TV viewing habits”. The suggestion here is if the child has to change then the whole family has to commit to change.
Unplug the TV sets, set the limits on the screen time. Don’t allow channel surfing, establish certain TV free hours, make bedrooms TV free.
Include encouraging healthy alternatives and substitute positive activities. The best-recommended alternative is to encourage the children to feed on other forms of media – like reading variety of books – when they are young.
One way to reduce the amount of time children watch television is to see that it is replaced spending time with lots of books around. Both the children and parents have to sit with reading for one another. Make sure that in the home the television is not a constant source of background noise.
KEEP IN TOUCH WITH YOUR CHILD’S TEACHER.
To act on this the parents need to allow time periodically to be in touch with the child’s teacher. It can be done by a phone call, or an e-mail, or a brief visit to the school.
It is a known custom among parents that they tend to visit a teacher only after something had gone wrong. Like bad behavior, low grades, absenteeism: more or less that shows the child in an unpleasant light.
Contacting teachers periodically brings in the necessary positive changes in the child and keeps certain negative habits in check.
It is the foremost responsibility to meet the class teacher at the beginning and end of every school year. Get as much information as you can about your child both in the classroom and outside in the playgrounds. You can also know about your child’s social skills and general attitude.
LET CHILDREN UNDERSTAND THE SECRETS OF GOOD MEMORY.
The most frequent complaint parents more likely to hear from a child are, “I’m not able to remember what I’m reading”. Memory is a very important skill for a child in learning. Not having a good understanding of memory skills leads to a lot of frustration in children and anxiety to parents.
It is the parent’s responsibility to make sure the child learns at a young age the correct reading techniques. Never allow the child to feel that reading is a punishment. Encourage him to read aloud. Reading and remembering for longer periods involves an intimate coordination of the eye movement and the brain functioning.
A child at a very early age has to be taught both by the teachers and the parents the correct way of reading and remembering.
CREATE GOOD HOMEWORK HABITS AT HOME.
The single most important parenting tip is to recognize that the responsibility of doing the homework rests in your child’s hands, not yours.
The main two facets of good homework habits are developing a regular routine and sticking to it. Let the child know homework completion is not a choice. From the beginning, be firm in homework timings and it has to be done well. It should be made clear that no excuses are permitted. The rule is always ‘work before play’ for the children.
Make sure that homework should be done in the same place, and at the same time. And help them to plan their weekly homework schedules. Never sit down with your child and do his work. But help your child to be organized.
ENCOURAGE A GOOD VOCABULARY.
Good vocabulary in a child involves reading. Mostly it has to be modeled by the parents. The parents’ reading habits and their using good vocabulary forms a foundation for their children’s future conversational skills.
A good vocabulary always communicates intelligence. In school, a good vocabulary and strong communicative styles will invite good results and good standing among other classmates. It is one sure skill to attain success when he becomes a young adult.