EXAMINE THE VALUES IN YOUR OWN HOME
Most parents seemed confused at the question when and how to teach children the upright values. Some even go to the extent suggesting they are impossible to teach. It’s true that teaching children to be honest, truthful, careful, considerate, don’t cut a note with any age. Because ethics and values are not so simple to teach, however, we can’t let the children learn them from other sources like aunts, uncles, teachers, peers or TV and movies. They are too important to be left to circumstances and chance situations.
How do children learn values?
A child’s first classroom and sanctuary for learning values is right in the home. They learn by observing their parents and drawing conclusions about how they uphold the core values like loving relationships, discipline, honesty both in words and actions. Regardless, what parents’ consciously teach the children, they emerge from childhood with a strong view of what they value by observing and imitating them?
Parents have to examine the values and must learn they are cordially protected, nurtured and made clear in the home.
But it’s a sad reality; most parents don’t heed to follow how children cultivate good values. Most of them assume children will develop values automatically, as they keep adding years to them. They imagine it would magically seep into their evolving character.
The first step in building good values in the home parents have to examine their own feelings, values and check are they living out with them honestly. Among many, there would be a wide disparity in what they speak and how they put into practice in reality, and sooner or later it gets filtered little by little and picked up as worthwhile values by children.
A sizable portion of values what a child picks up comes from the way of the parent’s thinking patterns, and how they express what they speak into actions. Children keenly watch and absorb what they say and do every day at home.
Children are more alert to the statements and opinions; say, what parents hold as important and dear – like family togetherness, education, relationships, equal dignity, and emotional aspects like compassion, honesty, responsibility and hard work. They have a tremendous influence on the child’s view of himself and the helpful values he cared for cherishing from childhood.
Parents can create many opportunities in the home to help the child carry the desired values and thus equip him with a good character, personality, and attitude to withstand any social and academic pressures or leave him completely lame and defenseless. So they shouldn’t miss the opportunity to help the child grow with learning values. And clasp the magic formula: it effectively starts at home.
Children learn by observation:
Values are more taught with actions and fewer words. Children learn more from observation and example than by mere preaching and talking into behaving. Responsible parents provide the right example and behavior to their children to learn from. And they see it’s subtly demonstrated at home. Matured parents’ behave responsibly in the presence of their children. They behave like happy and uphold desirable values as a couple to mirror practical examples to their children.
Every child is entitled to grow comfortably at home and in society at large. He needs to be trained to move around not in self-conceit or pretense but live with confidence and security. It’s a concept of self-worth that’s nurtured primarily at home. It’s the parents’ responsibility to examine, chiefly the blending of relationships and the emotional content at home.